About this episode
When was the last time you checked in with yourself? Like really checked in? When someone asks "How are you?" we usually go "I'm fine," but let's pause and think about what's actually behind the "I'm fine."
Key takeaways
- 1
Most of us answer the question before we have checked the answer.
- 2
Naming what is actually going on is the first skill every therapy builds on.
- 3
You do not need a crisis to deserve a real check-in.
Try this tonight
Next time someone asks how you are, pause for one breath before you answer, even if you still say "fine." Notice what came up in the pause.
Journal prompt
“If I answered "How are you?" completely honestly today, what would I say?”
Write about it